Many marriages, even those with great potential, go to waste because the couples either ignore or fail to recognize the warning signs. And because, for one reason or another, they do not heed the warning signs, they are not able to do something about it. If you are one of those couples whose marriage is in the rocks and you dream of being able to avoid divorce, it pays to know that there are three easy steps to get on the road to reconciliation.
Step No. 1: Accept.
There is really nothing that you can do or can start doing to fix your relationship unless you are both able to pull yourself out of the denial phase. Acceptance requires acknowledging the fact that things have changed and your marriage has taken a turn for the worse. This stage is all about coming to a conclusion that things are not going to get better in time, or as part of the natural course of things. This is a very important stage because it spells the difference between getting stuck in a bad marriage and moving on to whatever the future holds for you.
After accepting the sad fact that your relationship is not in tiptop shape, you will need to decide if you want to work on it or not. The decision phase is ideally the time when you both come together, weigh the pros and cons; identify the has-beens, the should-have-beens and the should be’s; and figure out if it’s worth the effort of saving or not. It becomes tricky, however, if only one party is decided on making it work and the other is bent on moving on. Here, it is important to try to get the middle ground and start from there.
Step No. 3: Seek help.
An expert can help you look at your partner and your marriage from a different point of view. It can provide you with the objectivity that you need, as well as coach you on how you both need to change to have a better marriage. An expert can also provide you with insights on how to strengthen your bond and avoid similar problems from happening in the future.