My wife doesn’t love me anymore. I have heard that so many times that I would have started to think there was an epidemic of wives falling out of love – if I didn’t know any better. The truth is that love never goes away.
Love is a feeling of affection that you develop for someone who you invest time and energy into, and just as you still love your wife, she still loves you. What is really happening is that she doesn’t feel that romantic and sexual attraction to you anymore and, therefore, your marriage has lost that unique connection that an intimate relationship brings. That is why you feel as though she is falling out of love.
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Why Is The Romantic And Sexual Attraction Diminishing?
Many people accept that the ‘spark’ in their relationship is supposed to diminish with time. But the people who accept this tend to be very unhappy in the marriage, and spend decades staying in a relationship that has lost its fun and passion.
The truth is that marriage is work, and keeping that spark alive relies on the man and woman doing things that created the spark in the first place. This is why so many relationship experts recommend dating your wife again. The thought of dating can excite both you and your wife and cause you to view each other in a new light.
However, dating is only a temporary solution. You don’t want to be seen in a ‘new’ light. You want to be seen in a permanent sexy light that your wife cannot get enough of, whether you are on a date or not.
How To Make My Wife Happy Again
If you want to bring back that spark and make your wife happy to be with you again, then you need to find a way to keep that spark burning constantly. Following are a few things you can do.
1. Keep Some Individuality
If you have been in your marriage for a while, you can start to become one with your wife and fuse together. This fusion can cause your wife to see you as an extension of herself rather than a man who excites her. You want to be the man who she gets excited to see, so make sure that you keep your individuality outside of the relationship and be a man who adds to her life, not a man who is her life.
2. Retain Your Role In The Relationship
In the beginning, you probably played a masculine role in the relationship. You made decisions, protected her when she needed protection, and supported her in whatever way you could. Now, you may have neglected your role as the husband and instead removed yourself as the leader in the marriage and took a back seat to her. Unfortunately, this causes her to step up and take over your role (because every relationship needs a leader), which is what usually turns a wife into ‘a nag’ and causes her to become very unhappy.
3. Take Care Of Yourself
A man who is lazy and lets himself go emotionally, mentally, and physically, can appear to be a man with low self-confidence and low self-worth. The ironic truth is that letting yourself go usually causes you to feel low self-confidence and self-worth. A husband who displays these traits cannot satisfy a wife’s need to be protected in the marriage, and this will quickly make her unhappy with her husband.
When You Change, She Will Change
Many husbands want to know why they have to be the ones to change. Why can’t she just be happy with you the way you are?
The truth is that a woman’s needs are not going to go away. They are instinctual and will be there until the day she dies. And, if those needs are not being met, then she will not be satisfied. It is as simple as that.
Once you start to change, and satisfy her needs, she will start to change too. In fact, if you can satisfy her needs and make her happy, she will do everything in her power to return the favor to you. That is the power of stepping up to the plate and taking charge in the marriage; you affect not only your actions, but her actions as well.
So, the next time you hear a man say ‘my wife doesn’t love me anymore‘, you can tell him that she is probably just unhappy in the marriage, and with a few simple tweaks in his behavior, she will not only be happy again, but she will make him happy too.