Is your marriage on the rocks? Are you having a ton of issues in your marriage? Are you starting to become worried that your marriage is going to fail? This can be a very upsetting time and, depending on what you do, you can save your marriage or push your marriage over the edge for good. Therefore, it is very important to make good choices as you move through this point in your marriage. Following are 6 tips to help you start moving towards the marriage you really want to have.
Article Table of Contents
- 1. Engage In Self Improvement
- 2. Make Your Marriage A Priority
- 3. Understand Why Women Ultimately Seek Divorce
- 4. Realize That You Can’t Directly Change Your Wife
- 5. Realize That A Marriage On The Rocks Requires Time And Effort
- 6. Understand That Consistency Is The Key To The Success Or Failure Of Your Marriage
1. Engage In Self Improvement
It is fair to say that if you have issues that are making you personally unhappy, they are probably making your wife unhappy too. If it is not directly affecting her happiness, then it may be indirectly affecting her happiness (think neglect). For instance, if you are drinking too much, then that is likely affecting you, your wife, and your marriage in a very negative way. Getting control over your drinking will give you more clarity and energy to focus on your wife and deal with your marriage. Other common issues that may be present are depression, stress or anxiety.
2. Make Your Marriage A Priority
A marriage on the rocks should be the biggest focus in your life. You should put your marriage on a pedestal and move the rest of the stuff in your life down the ‘importance’ list. This may sound wrong to some people, but realize that your career, kids, family, and friends will all suffer when your marriage is on the rocks, and when you make your marriage a priority, you will be doing the rest of your life a favor too.
3. Understand Why Women Ultimately Seek Divorce
By looking at statistics, you can easily see that there are some very common issues wives have with their husbands that ultimately cause them to seek divorce. Once you understand what these issues are, you can take a look at your own life and marriage and see if there is any way you can remove these issues.
For instance, sexual problems are listed as a common reason for divorce among women. Do you have sexual problems in your marriage? By seeking out help to tackle those sexual issues, and eventually overcoming them, you can remove one huge issue from the list of things pushing you towards divorce.
4. Realize That You Can’t Directly Change Your Wife
Understanding this is a huge factor in whether or not you are going to get your marriage back on track or not. Our emotions often cause us to react in ways that try to cause others to change, but the words that we say hardly ever have a huge impact on other people because change comes from within and not from force or finger pointing.
Once you stop trying to change your wife, you can stop wasting precious time. Think about it: if you can’t change your wife, then you are spending your time uselessly trying to do so. There are plenty more helpful things you could be doing instead (seeking help and changing your behavior) to get your marriage back in order.
5. Realize That A Marriage On The Rocks Requires Time And Effort
You can’t just spend a few moments a day working on your marriage and expect it to get better. Engaging in a happy marriage is a skill, and all skills needs to be consistency worked on. Even marriage experts need to put forward time and energy into their marriage. If you want to be a great husband, then you have to continuously be a great husband.
The good news is you are going to put effort somewhere in your day and you can easily rearrange it to make your wife and marriage a priority. For instance, you may put a lot of effort into watching TV, but by building the habit of devoting at least half of that time to your wife, you can easily make her and your marriage better.
6. Understand That Consistency Is The Key To The Success Or Failure Of Your Marriage
You cannot put a little effort into your fixing your marriage and expect your marriage to succeed. Even if it improves a little bit, you cannot say, “There! Fixed!” and move on to other stuff. You have to consistently engage in behavior that improves your marriage in order to consistently create a better marriage.
If you decide to consistently do nothing to fix your marriage, then it will consistently get worse. It is important to remember that your marriage is never gone to stay exactly the same. Through your actions and reactions, you are either improving your marriage or making it worse, so ensure you consistently do things to improve it.
The above 6 tips will help any marriage on the rocks start moving towards better times. The choice really comes down to you and your willingness to save your marriage.